Helen Boyds husband who had long been open about being a cross-dresser was considering living as a woman full time. Suddenly Boyd was confronted with the reality of what it would mean if her husband were actually to become a woman Ñ socially legally and medically. Would Boyd love and desire her partner the same way? Boyds first book My Husband Betty explored the relationships of cross-dressing men and their partners. Now Shes Not the Man I Married is both a sequel and a more expansive examination of gender in relationships. Its for couples who are homosexual or heterosexual and for readers who fall anywhere along the gender continuum. As Boyd struggles to understand the nature of marriage passion and love she shares her confusion and anger providing a fascinating observation of the ways in which relationships are gendered and how we cope or dont with the emotional and sexual pressures that gender roles can bring to our marriages and relationships.